Should I quit my job?
The thought keeps coming back: on Sunday evenings, on the way in, in the middle of a meeting. You have weighed the money and the risk more times than you can count, and still you circle.
Ruta does not tell you to stay or to go. It helps you hear what the question is really about, which is often less about the job than about who you have had to be in it.
What a conversation with Ruta can look like
You are standing at a crossroads, wondering whether you should leave the job that shaped who you are.
What is the hardest part about the thought of walking away from it all?
It is the feeling that I am abandoning my post and letting down the people who rely on me to be the strong one. For seventeen years, my entire identity has been wrapped up in being the person who doesn't break when everything else is crashing down around us. If I stop being that nurse, I honestly don't know who I am, or if I am allowed to just want something quieter.
For seventeen years you have been the strong one who holds everything together, and now the thought of leaving feels like abandoning your post and letting down the people who rely on you.
When you imagine choosing something quieter for yourself, what is the very first fear that rises up to pull you back?
Questions to ask yourself before you quit
- Am I leaving something, or going towards something?
- What exactly would I miss, and what would I not miss at all?
- If money were not part of it, would I still want to leave?
- What is the smallest version of this change I could try first?
- Whom would I have to disappoint, and can I live with that?
- What would the person I want to be in five years thank me for?
What you leave with
When the journey is complete, Ruta writes down what it found: the answer that emerged, the pattern beneath it, the strength you already have, and one next step.
What helps here
- A conversation that moves only as you do
- What Ruta found: the pattern beneath the question
- One next step, small enough for this week
Ruta is for reflection. It is not therapy, and it does not replace professional care.